Recently an acquaintance and I were discussing helping the homeless
where he said something that really grabbed
my attention. He said, "... giving woman lipstick is not really helping
them." What a powerful statement I thought. I stepped outside of myself
for a minute to try and understand his point of view. After some
deliberation, I
came up with a few insights that maybe helpful to others who feel the
same...to understand "the power of lipstick."
First let me say it's not about lipstick. It's
about the love and support that comes before handing over the lipstick
that makes the experience. Reminding a woman that she is
on this earth for a reason, is the beginning of a transformative experience.
You see...most women in shelters come from
very difficult backgrounds. Some are
escaping physical and mental abuse; some can't afford to pay their rent
or buy food and some are crippled with depression combined with a lack of
self love.
By having them look in a
mirror to examine their face, point out their beautiful
hair, cheekbones, eyebrows and lips, it is the first step in a powerful
experience, especially for those never heard an encouraging word in
their life.
Explaining individuality to a woman who has been beaten for a
year (or 20 years) is heart-breaking. When they finally begin to
believe in themselves...well, it can bring you to
tears.
Now here comes the big moment, handing over the infamous
"lipstick." At this point it's more of a magic wand. A wand that brings a
smile and embodies a positive, loving experience. A wand that will
remind a woman of her
individuality and beauty. This lipstick is a small token of love from a
stranger.
I hope this was helpful in showing that love and support can come in many forms. So don't judge, just love! :)
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